From Victim to Victory: A life changed
Like most people today, I came from a broken home filled with dysfunction and chaos. Family fighting, lies, and emotional detachment were a normal day in my home. Before I had even graduated high school, I had already experienced physical, sexual, mental, and emotional abuse that drove me into a deep rebellion with no regard for life. Throughout my childhood, and into my young adult life, I can remember many moments of closing my eyes and begging God to just take me away.
It wasn’t until the exposure of me being sexually abused by a family member, and my family siding against me, that I broke. It was at this point when a complete disregard for myself and life started to unfold. I turned to the streets at just 14 years old, and in desperate need of acceptance, I was introduced to drugs and drinking. It was during this chapter of my life that I was in/out of jail, probation, and court appointed rehabs, and was on a fast-track to nowhere. I found myself in the first of many abusive relationships that would plague me for many years of my life. After graduating high school, I knew I desperately needed change. I started moving from state to state like a gypsy, searching for a new life, only to discover more dysfunction everywhere I turned. It was in my darkest hour – when the walls caved in around me, people turned against me, and predators took advantage of me – that I felt this was my end. It was the smallest flicker of fate that saved my life during this dark hour. By shear fate I was reconnected with my biological father who had abandoned our family so many years before. In my desperate need for help, he opened his doors and heart to me in hopes of renewing what was long thought to be a lost relationship.
With $300 to my name, I gave away everything I had collected in my 21 years that didn’t fit into a few duffle bags, and hopped on a one-way train headed to California. With an overdue deep breath of fresh air, I finally found myself in a stable environment free of lies, repressed emotion, chaos, alcohol, and drugs. It was within this space that the untangling of a lifetime of dysfunction had begun. I continued to struggle mentally. I found I had attracted another mentally abusive relationship, and was now struggling through depression, self worthiness issues, and what became a five year long battle with an eating disorder. Once again darkness crept in around me. Not knowing where to turn, I knew it was time to take a long hard look in the mirror. As I pulled myself off the floor, I pointed to myself in the mirror and with a deeply convicting voice, I declared, “It is time to take responsibility for your life and learn to love you!” From that point on I vowed to learn how to respect myself, release my internal blocks, and break free into a life filled with more joy, love, purpose, and fulfillment than I could have ever imagined.
Today I look back with deep empathy for the pain that little girl endured, but passionately value the strength it gave me to be the women I am today. Knowing what it takes to FREE your life has helped me make it my purpose to show people, just like you, how to UnLimit their lives.
Bonnie Kelly is a certified life coach & personal development expert, located in the Sacramento & Placer county area. She has taught thousands of hours of personal growth and development coaching, productivity coaching, and self-help classes to hundreds of people throughout the country.
“Coaching & Teaching is my Life! After more than a decade of addiction, suffering & self-hatred I knew there had to be more to life! In my darkest hour, I CHOSE to start taking personal responsibility and let go of the idea it was anyone else’s job to save me! Fast forward many years, thousands of hours learning, studying, growing & mastering the art of personal development, you will find a balan
ced, self-loving, & confident woman… you will find ME!”
In 2010, Bonnie took a dramatic change in her career, pursuing her passion of helping others. After graduating, she opened her own company, now known as Bonnie Kelly & Associates. With thousands of hours of personal & group coaching experience, Bonnie has gained the reputation as a Core Energy Coach, who helps you get to the ROOT of your blocks locked deep in your subconscious mind for permanent removal.